♫♪ Didn't
anyone tell you yet that...to forgive is to forget
♪♫
This is what honestly first came
into my mind when we were informed about what this post should be about. This
is actually my favorite line from the song, "THE PAST". I may now sound to agree with that line but I
honestly can't make up my mind. It's quite obscure, quite complicated. By now,
I'm telling you that my heart and mind is having a serious conflict, saying several
statements that may never seem to match. But maybe I can start by showing this
to you:
Now this is what made my mind mess
up. In my opinion, there's only one message this picture is trying to express...SAYING
SORRY IS NOT ENOUGH. It isn't done in two steps, wherein one apologizes, then
the other one accepts. It's not that simple. Some people may consider it
"bitterness" but pain changes people. Pain teaches people to be
stronger and tougher than they were before. Because forgiving a person who have
done something wrong to you takes a lot of time, courage, understanding, acceptance
and even a little bit of love. Yes, love! Don't get me wrong.
Am I making myself clear now? If
not, I can tell you something really personal that happened to me when I was
about 8 or 9 years old. It's not actually all about me, but something about my
parents. We all know that arguments between a married couple cannot be avoided and
of course, even committing a mistake. From a small misunderstanding to a real
fight, it really happens. I can still remember a bit of what happened back
then. I was crying inside our car while watching my parents fight. I didn't
know the whole story but I cried a lot as if I really know every detail. Everything
were becoming intense. I can't help but cry and feel afraid, for I was thinking
everything could fall apart in just a snap of a finger. I came out of the car
and ran out to them, yelling, "tama
na! nay, tay wag kayo maghihiwalay, please!" They still shouted at
each other after that and I can't barely remember what happened next. All I
remember is that my cousins and sisters were trying to comfort me after what
happened.
I was definitely affected a lot by
that big fight between my parents. I was so affected that it had an impact on
me. Not by physical means but by emotional. How? by teaching me a lesson, and
that is THE BEST WAY TO FORGIVE IS TO FORGET. My parents forgave each other by forgetting the
past and putting it all behind them and it only proves that if you are ready to forgive, then you are ready to forget as well. Now, I realize that there's no
point in putting all the blame and anger to the person who have done something
wrong to you. Saying sorry, for me, is just the first step of telling that you
really want to apologize to a person. The important thing is to make it up to
him/her despite of what you have done to them. Know in yourself that you
committed a mistake, although most people repent too much that they forget to
forgive themselves. Once again, understand and accept. Let God be your
inspiration in doing so. He unconditionally loves us that he is always ready to
forgive us with whatever our sins are, so is there any reason for someone not
to forgive and forget?
Lastly, just love. Choose love.
Share love. Learn of love. Grow in love. Pray for love. This is no doubt the
best thing that my parents taught me without uttering any words. If it wasn't
for them, my family tree would probably include nothing but our names and
a broken heart in it.
No comments:
Post a Comment